Marriages regularly fail.
At the same time, most people who are getting married think that their marriage is the exception. They don’t see a big threat. Even those who are in higher risk groups for divorce don’t think that their marriage is a high risk marriage.
If we are going to avoid failing, we have to recognize that it could happen. We have to believe the threat in order to avoid it.
On the other side, there are many marriages that do not end in divorce that are not going well or are on life support. The husband and wife are essentially roommates.
How do we move past these threats to flourishing marriages? We have to work at it. It won’t change overnight, but it can happen with time and effort.
Here are a few things that you can study and talk about at home that I believe will help you move toward a flourishing marriage.
I organize this material into three sections: awareness, negotiation, and marriage virtues. The first section includes some exercises you can do to help you come to more awareness about who each of you are and where you come from. The second section includes the main questions that have to be negotiated as a couple comes together. The third section is instruction on how to become better marriage partners through trust, love, and respect. Continue reading “Work on Your Marriage at Home”